Post by secretsarelost on Oct 29, 2007 18:08:59 GMT -4
Was walking by the pharmacy the the other day, and saw Damhnait and Kim staring back at me from one of the magazines on the stand. Strangest occurance ever, but they're featured in one of the free mags, Canadian Health & Lifestyle, put out by Rexall, of all things.
Anyways, I typed up the interview, which is actually pretty long, and I'll put up some scans at the end. They say that the interview took place after the Willie Nelson tour, although there is no mention of Tara leaving; however, she is mysteriously 'unable' to join them for the interview.
*Sorry if there's any typos.. I had limited time to copy this out.
The Ladies of Shaye: The Beauty of Life & Song
Three women from the East coast brought their unique styles together to create a truly magical blend of voies that rocks us from coast to coast. Kim Stockwood, Damhnait Doyle, known as Dav, and Tara MacLean are proud to make music and life together. It was an absolute pleasure, and loads of fun chatting with Kim and Dav in Toronto about their passions. Unfortunately Tara wasn’t able to join us.
H&L: The three of you had your own careers going on. What brought you together?
Kim: Dav and I were asked to sing together at an event with another woman a number of years ago. People told us how great it was and suggested we record together. But we all had solo careers and different things we wanted to do.
A few years later Dav and I sang together again, loved the sound and entertained the thought of singing together. One day we were discussing who a third could be. Tara’s song came on the radio, we were friends and loved her music so we felt this was the sign we needed. When we got together we didn’t know what we would do, that didn’t develop until we sang together. When we did, it sounded amazing, it was sheer magic.
H&L: How do your three personalities and different ages fit together?
Kim Great! We’re all different people and that’s what makes it work. We respect each other but truthfully it’s about the music. I’m the senior (with a huge laugh). I’m 41; Dav is 31, and Tara 33.
Dav: Kim and I are from the same place - ‘The Rock’. There’s no generational gap in Newfoundland - 85 year olds play music with 16 year olds. Tara’s from PEI and it’s the same there.
Kim: Personality wise, I’m probably the safest. I’m the Mom.
Dav: (interrupts) I wouldn’t say that. You’re extremely dynamic and when you’re on - you’re on 500% like nobody else in the room. I sit back in a sorner because you’re like a Tasmanian devil. You also have a very conservative side that I didn’t know about until I got to know you better. You have such balance.
Kim: I’m a simple gal, but smart. We all are in our own ways. I believe in family, hanging out with friends and doing something on the planet that makes a difference.
H&L: Is there anything in particular you would like to do to make a difference?
Kim: There’s so many big things. On a small level I want to be kind to all people. (Kim breaks into song) “To the people that I meet when I’m walking down the street each day.” To do little things that makes peoples’ lives better.
Dav: I think every step someone takes, their footprints ripple throughout the Universe. I believe that the biggest problem people have is they think they can’t make a difference because they’re not in the public eye. I think no matter who you are or what you do, how you treat your friends and family is the truest reflection of your character. It doesn’t matter if you’re spending millions of dollars telling people how important your cause is, that’s irrelevant. How you treat other people in turn affects how they will go and treat others, and that should be with respect and fairness.
Kim: I’m the learning environmentalist in the group. You have to be blind if you don’t see there’s something up with it today. Tara found out about ZeroFootprint so we decided to ZeroFootprint our CD Lake of Fire. Anything that we used environmentally to make the CD as calculated and put back into the environment, such as planting trees for the paper that was used. This is an incredible process and contribution; we’ll continue to do it.
Dav: For me, one of my concerns is out soldiers in Afghanistan who I believe are caught in a political hotbed of something they didn’t choose. I’ve been to Afghanistan twice now. I believe as Canadians we have a duty to support the individual men and women - our brothers and sisters who are fighting. I don’t support war of any kind. But regardless of people’s opinions about politics, whether we should be there, to me, they’re two totally different things. I think this is an important thing for us as a nation - that’s a big cause for me.
Kim: I agree.
H&L: Dav, you’re off to Africa. What’s the pull?
Dav: Ever since I was a child I wanted to go to Africa, to travel the whole world and see everything. I think it’s so easy to line in the world wallowed in fear. My first trip to Afghanistan four years ago took the fear right out of my body and made my appetite for the world as big as it was when I was 8 years old.
I was part of a song last year called “Song for Africa” to raise awareness, and raise funds for a mobile AIDS clinic in Kenya. We’re going back to Africa to make a real life documentary on this. I’m going for completely selfish reasons. I’m going to Africa so I can be affected. I want to cry, to hurt, to feel their pain. When I come back it will affect how I live here and in turn affect the people I interact with. No matter who you are, your actions affect other people.
Kim: Quincy Jones was recently asked “What quality do you most deplore in people?” His answer: “The ability to not turn darkness into light. It is a choice.” This is what makes us people - we always have a choice.
We all have different levels of hardship in our lives. There are some people who choose to feel sorry for themselves when something “bad” happens and they become livid - that’ll destroy them. Then you find out about others who’ve had bad lives and decided, “No way. I’m not going to let this devour me. I’m going to be a good person. I’m going to do something with my life. I am going to turn darkness into light.” That’s admirable.
H&L: Has life changed you as a Mom?
Kim: Where Dav says she has “no fear” I have more. I look at the world differently and my priorities have definately changed. My concern for the planet has increased too. My concern for safety, school, and other children has increased. When you create human beings you’re responsible for them. Finding the balance as an individual, a woman with a career and never regretting that I wasn’t there for my kids. I want to be a good mom. You never know how your steps along the way are going to affect them. I watch for signs and listen to my instincts for when my kids need me. The key for me is also to know when to say, “No.” The girls and our manager are good; they know I don’t want to be on the road for long.
H&L: What would you love to instill in your children?
Kim: A strength of character. One of the hardest things traveling through life is figuring out where you fit in, your role and what you were put here for. I believe it’s important to learn who you are and like who you are, to respect yourself and others. I want them to be good people and find out who they are as soon as they can. There are a lot of forces in life pushing you here and there, so the sooner you know who you are the better. My husband would say that he hopes they have integrity.
H&L: So you’re all busy, how do you keep the fires burning in your partners?
Kim: For me, the number one thing is to be your own person, have seperate entities, be a strong person and respect them for who they are. You have to understand each other and be willing to build and invest in the relationship. To continually work on it at all levels. That’s what will keep us together.
Dav: Thinking about the other person before yourself.
Kim: Yes. Not because you have to but because you want to.
Dav: Especially when you’re in the limelight. You have to be sensitive to your partner.
H&L: You gals come together as a group and also persue seperate careers - is this difficult to navigate?
Dav: We’re three different and diverse women - the branching off is the easy part. In coming together - let me give this example. I know the three of us have written a great song when we all have different opinions on what the song is about and love it. That’s perfect. We may not be agreeing but we all get what we want out of it.
Kim: We accept and respect one another’s wants and priorities in life.
Dav: There’s been an incredible amount of acceptance and accommodation in this group, and I’m really, really proud of that. We’ve all worked at making this work for each of us.
H&L: Do you ever feel that you’re competing with one another?
Dav: That’s the biggest gift I’ve opened myself up to as an adult and within this group. You have have friends, who are talented, beautiful and smart. If you can’t accept the face that you’re lucky and take what you can from it you’re missing a huge opportunity. If you’re threatened by it or jealous then you’re really wasting precious energy and time when you could be getting a lot of joy out of it.
Kim: I think the key is we all have different things. That’s the key to being in a successful group or friendship. It’s important to let each other shine. It’s about embracing what makes your friends great. Humans all want respect. I’ve gotten more confidence by cheering them on.
H&L: You embrace one another and the qualities you each have.
Dav & Kim: (in enthusiastic unison) Yeah!!
H&L: What do you love about one another?
Kim: I love that Dav is very loyal. She lets me shine. Her compliments really help me.
Dav: I love everything about Kim. You don’t have enough tape. I’m so happy she’s in my life. If anything good or bad happens in my life I call her right away.
H&L: That’s a lovely thing to hear.
Dav: It’s true! The thing about us is if we feel uncomfortabel with one another we address it right away and honestly. If I do anything that would slightly offend her it would hurt my feelings so much, that I’d correct it immediately. (Kim quickly concurs.)
H&L: This is a good way to deal with issues.
Dav: Everybody makes mistakes and it’s how you deal with them that defines your strength of character. The biggest lesson my mother has taught me is to always take the high road. If you’re feeling something ugly inside, reach above and beyond it. Then it’s behind you.
Kim: Perfectly said. If you’re out of integrity you feel ugly and that’s the worst feeling.
H&L: Mentors in your life?
Kim: Both my grandmothers. My 94 year-old grandmother lives in Newfoundland, and is one of the coolest, strongest women ever. A wife of a fisherman and ran with it.
Dav: After my folks, family and grandmother, it would have to be my theatre/arts teacher in high school. He cast me in my first play and a bunch after that. I was intimidated by him because I saw him as this amazing, charismatic man. He suffered an incredible amount of tragedy in his family: his wife and son passed away from a degenerative lung disease, and another son with the same disease had a double lung transplant after waiting a year. He personally had a brain tumour removed more than once. I’ve seen him and his family go through so much. He’s such an inspiration to me. He’s been so proud of me and I feel so blessed that he’s been there for me.
H&L: Is this why you support the Organ Donor Foundation?
Dav: I spent a lot of time waiting with them for the transplant organs so it is something that’s near and dear to my heart. When Tara’s sister Shaye passed away, (the group’s namesake), she had signed her organ donor card but use of her organs had been denied because the family has to give consent even if the card is signed. Tara felt Shaye was denied the right to share and affect other people’s lives. This struck a very deep chord in Tara and since it’s in her nature to make things happen, we did a fund-raising concert for the foundation. It was a very emotional night because of our personal experiences.
H&L: Challenging times of your career?
Kim: I would say the balance. And everything changes. You have to have the desire to do this - it’s not an easy life but it’s a brilliant life. We just came off tour with Willie Nelson. At first I didn’t want to go because it was two weeks away from the kids, but from the first night I was pinching myself. The first song I ever sang was ‘Crazy’ and here I was standing in the wings watching him sing it and we were opening for him. I think as long as the universe continues to give me signs and balances it with the other areas of my life then I know that’s what I’m to do. My kids have to be happy too; that they ‘re not missing me so much that it’s going to affect them.
Dav: I’d say balance too. It’s difficult because I want to do everything and anything. I want to eat life up with two big spoons. And there are the times you’re at home relaxing with your man and you know you could do with a little less.
Kim: It’s also about self-actualization - the happier I am the happier my kids and partner are going to be.
H&L: You have a TV show starting soon. How was that?
Dav: I am so grateful that there is a record of our life together. We wrapped up filming the other day and we let them know how much we loved doing this with them. Professionally, this was the most challenging thing I’ve ever done.
Kim: I felt it was draining because everything was under a microscope. My husband didn’t want to have anything to do with it and he didn’t want the kids in it. We had to negotiate because for me the show is about trying to balance being a mom and having a career. We had to show them a bit. The producers were very respectful of what we could and couldn’t do. It was definately a lot of work but an amazing experience.
H&L: What’s one thing you would miss in your life if you didn’t have it?
Kim: On a ‘deep’ level: love and respect from my friends and family. That’s what keeps me going when I don’t feel so good about myself.
Dav: I’m saying the same thing - love and respect.
Kim: On a completley ‘shallow’ level - lip gloss and vanilla lattes.
Dav: I won’t say vanilla lattes, I’ll say water and baths.
Anyways, I typed up the interview, which is actually pretty long, and I'll put up some scans at the end. They say that the interview took place after the Willie Nelson tour, although there is no mention of Tara leaving; however, she is mysteriously 'unable' to join them for the interview.
*Sorry if there's any typos.. I had limited time to copy this out.
The Ladies of Shaye: The Beauty of Life & Song
Three women from the East coast brought their unique styles together to create a truly magical blend of voies that rocks us from coast to coast. Kim Stockwood, Damhnait Doyle, known as Dav, and Tara MacLean are proud to make music and life together. It was an absolute pleasure, and loads of fun chatting with Kim and Dav in Toronto about their passions. Unfortunately Tara wasn’t able to join us.
H&L: The three of you had your own careers going on. What brought you together?
Kim: Dav and I were asked to sing together at an event with another woman a number of years ago. People told us how great it was and suggested we record together. But we all had solo careers and different things we wanted to do.
A few years later Dav and I sang together again, loved the sound and entertained the thought of singing together. One day we were discussing who a third could be. Tara’s song came on the radio, we were friends and loved her music so we felt this was the sign we needed. When we got together we didn’t know what we would do, that didn’t develop until we sang together. When we did, it sounded amazing, it was sheer magic.
H&L: How do your three personalities and different ages fit together?
Kim Great! We’re all different people and that’s what makes it work. We respect each other but truthfully it’s about the music. I’m the senior (with a huge laugh). I’m 41; Dav is 31, and Tara 33.
Dav: Kim and I are from the same place - ‘The Rock’. There’s no generational gap in Newfoundland - 85 year olds play music with 16 year olds. Tara’s from PEI and it’s the same there.
Kim: Personality wise, I’m probably the safest. I’m the Mom.
Dav: (interrupts) I wouldn’t say that. You’re extremely dynamic and when you’re on - you’re on 500% like nobody else in the room. I sit back in a sorner because you’re like a Tasmanian devil. You also have a very conservative side that I didn’t know about until I got to know you better. You have such balance.
Kim: I’m a simple gal, but smart. We all are in our own ways. I believe in family, hanging out with friends and doing something on the planet that makes a difference.
H&L: Is there anything in particular you would like to do to make a difference?
Kim: There’s so many big things. On a small level I want to be kind to all people. (Kim breaks into song) “To the people that I meet when I’m walking down the street each day.” To do little things that makes peoples’ lives better.
Dav: I think every step someone takes, their footprints ripple throughout the Universe. I believe that the biggest problem people have is they think they can’t make a difference because they’re not in the public eye. I think no matter who you are or what you do, how you treat your friends and family is the truest reflection of your character. It doesn’t matter if you’re spending millions of dollars telling people how important your cause is, that’s irrelevant. How you treat other people in turn affects how they will go and treat others, and that should be with respect and fairness.
Kim: I’m the learning environmentalist in the group. You have to be blind if you don’t see there’s something up with it today. Tara found out about ZeroFootprint so we decided to ZeroFootprint our CD Lake of Fire. Anything that we used environmentally to make the CD as calculated and put back into the environment, such as planting trees for the paper that was used. This is an incredible process and contribution; we’ll continue to do it.
Dav: For me, one of my concerns is out soldiers in Afghanistan who I believe are caught in a political hotbed of something they didn’t choose. I’ve been to Afghanistan twice now. I believe as Canadians we have a duty to support the individual men and women - our brothers and sisters who are fighting. I don’t support war of any kind. But regardless of people’s opinions about politics, whether we should be there, to me, they’re two totally different things. I think this is an important thing for us as a nation - that’s a big cause for me.
Kim: I agree.
H&L: Dav, you’re off to Africa. What’s the pull?
Dav: Ever since I was a child I wanted to go to Africa, to travel the whole world and see everything. I think it’s so easy to line in the world wallowed in fear. My first trip to Afghanistan four years ago took the fear right out of my body and made my appetite for the world as big as it was when I was 8 years old.
I was part of a song last year called “Song for Africa” to raise awareness, and raise funds for a mobile AIDS clinic in Kenya. We’re going back to Africa to make a real life documentary on this. I’m going for completely selfish reasons. I’m going to Africa so I can be affected. I want to cry, to hurt, to feel their pain. When I come back it will affect how I live here and in turn affect the people I interact with. No matter who you are, your actions affect other people.
Kim: Quincy Jones was recently asked “What quality do you most deplore in people?” His answer: “The ability to not turn darkness into light. It is a choice.” This is what makes us people - we always have a choice.
We all have different levels of hardship in our lives. There are some people who choose to feel sorry for themselves when something “bad” happens and they become livid - that’ll destroy them. Then you find out about others who’ve had bad lives and decided, “No way. I’m not going to let this devour me. I’m going to be a good person. I’m going to do something with my life. I am going to turn darkness into light.” That’s admirable.
H&L: Has life changed you as a Mom?
Kim: Where Dav says she has “no fear” I have more. I look at the world differently and my priorities have definately changed. My concern for the planet has increased too. My concern for safety, school, and other children has increased. When you create human beings you’re responsible for them. Finding the balance as an individual, a woman with a career and never regretting that I wasn’t there for my kids. I want to be a good mom. You never know how your steps along the way are going to affect them. I watch for signs and listen to my instincts for when my kids need me. The key for me is also to know when to say, “No.” The girls and our manager are good; they know I don’t want to be on the road for long.
H&L: What would you love to instill in your children?
Kim: A strength of character. One of the hardest things traveling through life is figuring out where you fit in, your role and what you were put here for. I believe it’s important to learn who you are and like who you are, to respect yourself and others. I want them to be good people and find out who they are as soon as they can. There are a lot of forces in life pushing you here and there, so the sooner you know who you are the better. My husband would say that he hopes they have integrity.
H&L: So you’re all busy, how do you keep the fires burning in your partners?
Kim: For me, the number one thing is to be your own person, have seperate entities, be a strong person and respect them for who they are. You have to understand each other and be willing to build and invest in the relationship. To continually work on it at all levels. That’s what will keep us together.
Dav: Thinking about the other person before yourself.
Kim: Yes. Not because you have to but because you want to.
Dav: Especially when you’re in the limelight. You have to be sensitive to your partner.
H&L: You gals come together as a group and also persue seperate careers - is this difficult to navigate?
Dav: We’re three different and diverse women - the branching off is the easy part. In coming together - let me give this example. I know the three of us have written a great song when we all have different opinions on what the song is about and love it. That’s perfect. We may not be agreeing but we all get what we want out of it.
Kim: We accept and respect one another’s wants and priorities in life.
Dav: There’s been an incredible amount of acceptance and accommodation in this group, and I’m really, really proud of that. We’ve all worked at making this work for each of us.
H&L: Do you ever feel that you’re competing with one another?
Dav: That’s the biggest gift I’ve opened myself up to as an adult and within this group. You have have friends, who are talented, beautiful and smart. If you can’t accept the face that you’re lucky and take what you can from it you’re missing a huge opportunity. If you’re threatened by it or jealous then you’re really wasting precious energy and time when you could be getting a lot of joy out of it.
Kim: I think the key is we all have different things. That’s the key to being in a successful group or friendship. It’s important to let each other shine. It’s about embracing what makes your friends great. Humans all want respect. I’ve gotten more confidence by cheering them on.
H&L: You embrace one another and the qualities you each have.
Dav & Kim: (in enthusiastic unison) Yeah!!
H&L: What do you love about one another?
Kim: I love that Dav is very loyal. She lets me shine. Her compliments really help me.
Dav: I love everything about Kim. You don’t have enough tape. I’m so happy she’s in my life. If anything good or bad happens in my life I call her right away.
H&L: That’s a lovely thing to hear.
Dav: It’s true! The thing about us is if we feel uncomfortabel with one another we address it right away and honestly. If I do anything that would slightly offend her it would hurt my feelings so much, that I’d correct it immediately. (Kim quickly concurs.)
H&L: This is a good way to deal with issues.
Dav: Everybody makes mistakes and it’s how you deal with them that defines your strength of character. The biggest lesson my mother has taught me is to always take the high road. If you’re feeling something ugly inside, reach above and beyond it. Then it’s behind you.
Kim: Perfectly said. If you’re out of integrity you feel ugly and that’s the worst feeling.
H&L: Mentors in your life?
Kim: Both my grandmothers. My 94 year-old grandmother lives in Newfoundland, and is one of the coolest, strongest women ever. A wife of a fisherman and ran with it.
Dav: After my folks, family and grandmother, it would have to be my theatre/arts teacher in high school. He cast me in my first play and a bunch after that. I was intimidated by him because I saw him as this amazing, charismatic man. He suffered an incredible amount of tragedy in his family: his wife and son passed away from a degenerative lung disease, and another son with the same disease had a double lung transplant after waiting a year. He personally had a brain tumour removed more than once. I’ve seen him and his family go through so much. He’s such an inspiration to me. He’s been so proud of me and I feel so blessed that he’s been there for me.
H&L: Is this why you support the Organ Donor Foundation?
Dav: I spent a lot of time waiting with them for the transplant organs so it is something that’s near and dear to my heart. When Tara’s sister Shaye passed away, (the group’s namesake), she had signed her organ donor card but use of her organs had been denied because the family has to give consent even if the card is signed. Tara felt Shaye was denied the right to share and affect other people’s lives. This struck a very deep chord in Tara and since it’s in her nature to make things happen, we did a fund-raising concert for the foundation. It was a very emotional night because of our personal experiences.
H&L: Challenging times of your career?
Kim: I would say the balance. And everything changes. You have to have the desire to do this - it’s not an easy life but it’s a brilliant life. We just came off tour with Willie Nelson. At first I didn’t want to go because it was two weeks away from the kids, but from the first night I was pinching myself. The first song I ever sang was ‘Crazy’ and here I was standing in the wings watching him sing it and we were opening for him. I think as long as the universe continues to give me signs and balances it with the other areas of my life then I know that’s what I’m to do. My kids have to be happy too; that they ‘re not missing me so much that it’s going to affect them.
Dav: I’d say balance too. It’s difficult because I want to do everything and anything. I want to eat life up with two big spoons. And there are the times you’re at home relaxing with your man and you know you could do with a little less.
Kim: It’s also about self-actualization - the happier I am the happier my kids and partner are going to be.
H&L: You have a TV show starting soon. How was that?
Dav: I am so grateful that there is a record of our life together. We wrapped up filming the other day and we let them know how much we loved doing this with them. Professionally, this was the most challenging thing I’ve ever done.
Kim: I felt it was draining because everything was under a microscope. My husband didn’t want to have anything to do with it and he didn’t want the kids in it. We had to negotiate because for me the show is about trying to balance being a mom and having a career. We had to show them a bit. The producers were very respectful of what we could and couldn’t do. It was definately a lot of work but an amazing experience.
H&L: What’s one thing you would miss in your life if you didn’t have it?
Kim: On a ‘deep’ level: love and respect from my friends and family. That’s what keeps me going when I don’t feel so good about myself.
Dav: I’m saying the same thing - love and respect.
Kim: On a completley ‘shallow’ level - lip gloss and vanilla lattes.
Dav: I won’t say vanilla lattes, I’ll say water and baths.
